Tony's mixed up another batch of my favorite pomegranate 'ritas. Why don't you come over and join me in the lounge and chat a bit. I've a few things I'd like to bounce off you if you don't mind.
Last week I found myself in the middle of a discussion about how the scenes portrayed in the Fifty Shades books weren't really true to the lifestyle. Within seconds I was more or less attacked for calling BDSM a lifestyle. Let's see, how did he say it...oh yeah. "Don't you just love how 'they' call it a lifestyle. You can go ahead and get your kink anyway you want but don't you call it a lifestyle."
WTF??? That's what I thought too. I had to bite my tongue a few minutes to keep from bitch slapping him right there...verbally of course. After confessing he knew NOTHING at all about BDSM and didn't want to, he continued to be adamant it cannot be called a lifestyle. He kept going on and on about how what went on in the bedroom doesn't play out in the real world and so it can't be a lifestyle. I told him repeatedly it's not all about the sex or the bedroom play. He got even more irate by saying, "I don't care where you get your kink on, it's still not a lifestyle."
He missed the entire point. Just like the majority of society here in the United States who think what's portrayed in porn and in the Fifty Shades books accurately represents it. He ducked out of the conversation before I could correct his misconceptions yet again and then the person who started the conversation deleted it off her Facebook page. I guess she didn't like to be lumped in the same category as me even though she agreed with everything I said. Peer pressure at it's finest!
Do you see why we keep a lot of this stuff behind closed doors? Here at Taboo and on Temptations Resort island there is no need to keep things hidden. You're free to enjoy all your passions as you wish and feel safe doing it. Hmmm...sounds a bit like a lifestyle to me. How about you? Not sure. Well, let's take a look at the definition of a "lifestyle." And yeah, I wrote it all down to flip into that dude's face the next time I run into him.
~ a way of life or style of living that reflects the attitudes and values of a person or group.
~ a set of attitudes, habits, or possessions associated with a particular person or group.
Seems to me BDSM fits those definitions. It is a way of life for those of us not just curious or dabbling in it. We do tend to be drawn to like-minded people and form groups and even full communities. We do have set rules for safe and consensual relationships and many of our possessions are associated with our lifestyle. Take look at the leather corsets, boots, whips and cuffs we have in our club boutique. Would you associate any of that with another group of people?
This is just one more incidence that makes me happy Tony and I opened The House of Taboo and now Taboo II. We want it to be a place where adults can go to let their hair down and enjoy all that life has to offer. What's wrong with that? Just because you don't understand the attraction to our LIFESTYLE, doesn't make it wrong and doesn't give you the right to say we can't call it a style of living.
Well, thank you for letting me vent just a bit. Go ahead and enjoy another Margarita on me. The first band's about to take the stage. Before they do, here's a video explaining what we talked about today. If you have any questions, feel free to leave them in the comments section. Tony, myself and the rest of the staff are here if you need us.